The holidays seem to have a special way of making you feel like crap if you are alone. Maybe you are nursing a recent breakup. Maybe you just started college and can not afford to fly back home. Whatever the scenario, if you are spending the holidays by yourself and it is getting you down, then you must know how to cope. Being alone for holidays does not have to mean being lonely. It can be relaxing and enjoyable. You can use your holiday to do all the things you never have time for in your everyday routine. Spending time alone is a way to recharge your mental batteries and regroup-everybody needs to do it. So get over your fear of missing out or your reservations about being seen somewhere solo, and embark on a mission to treat yourself with some awesome dates. Fill your time with activities you enjoy, as well as few things that benefit others, to make the season feel special and potentially even rewarding.
- Go out and do something new
Do not feel like you have to stay in your house because you are spending your holiday alone. If you do not want to a lot of money, take your time visiting stores, and treat yourself to something small that you have been wanting. Use your holidays as an opportunity to try something new like swing dances, swimming, and painting.
The holidays are supposed to be a happy time, so focus on what you can do to be happy now. In short: include yourself a little. If you can afford it, that might mean taking a trip, even if it is just a short weekend trip to a nearby town. When you travel with other people, you always end up making compromises on what sites to see, and what activities to do. Travelling alone gives you the luxury of going at your own place.
- Focus on what makes you happy
Perhaps the most important tip of all: instead of focusing on what you do not have, and thinking about what makes you sad and depressed..... focus on what you love. What makes you happy? If you focus on that, that will be the reality.
- Think yourself as a free bird
Do not beat yourself up over feeling empty instead of full of the joy of the present moment. You are feeling empty because that is a part of the illness. It is not your fault, and you are not a bad person or a loser because of it. Always try to stay away from the alcohol. It may relieve the pain for a little while but you will probably end up feeling sad and maudlin.
- Express your creative side
Explore several of your creative pursuits as a way to turn the focus away from typical holiday activities. Paint a picture, get experimental in the kitchen. If you try out new recipes on your own and mess up the only hunger, a disappointed person you have to deal with it yourself. You can work on perfecting the dish until it is just right then serve up a flawless result the next time you are with friends, and act like it was your first try.
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